Meetlife Journals

I spent a long time living a life that felt like a "shrunken" version of my true potential. I was staying inside the lines, playing it safe, and waiting for some external permission to finally go after what I wanted. I didn't realize that the only person keeping me in that small space was me.

When I first picked up You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero, it felt like a splash of cold water to the face. It wasn't just another self-help book. It was a manual for waking up to the power I already had but was too afraid to use.

If you feel like you are stuck in a loop of "almost" getting what you want, here are the 7 you are a badass lessons that I truly wish someone had told me sooner. These are the shifts that helped me move from a place of fear to a place of absolute confidence.

1. Your Subconscious Is the Real Architect

I used to believe that if I just thought "happy thoughts," my life would change. But Jen explains that our conscious mind is only the tip of the iceberg. Our subconscious mind, which is formed by our early experiences and the "scripts" we were given as children, is what actually runs the show.

If I consciously want to be successful but my subconscious believes that "money is the root of all evil," I will constantly self-sabotage. I’ve learned to look at my results to see what my subconscious actually believes. If I don't like the results, I have to go back and rewrite the script I have with God and myself.

2. Self-Love Is the Holy Grail

We often treat self-love like a luxury or a "nice to have" after we achieve our goals. But in the world of being a badass, self-love is the foundation. If I don't truly love and value myself, I will never have the courage to ask for what I deserve.

Loving myself means I stop the constant internal criticism. I stop comparing my "behind the scenes" to everyone else's highlight reel. When I am in a state of self-love, my vibration is high, and I naturally attract better opportunities. I’ve realized that I am the only one who can give me the validation I’ve been seeking from the world.

3. Meet Your "Big Snooze"

Jen calls the ego the "Big Snooze." It is that part of us that wants to keep us safe, small, and predictable. The Big Snooze is terrified of change because change feels like a threat to our survival.

Whenever I try something new or step outside my comfort zone, my Big Snooze shows up as "the voice of reason." It tells me I’m not ready, that I’ll fail, or that people will laugh at me. Now, I recognize that voice for what it is: a sign that I am growing. I don't let the Big Snooze drive the car anymore. I acknowledge its fear and I keep moving forward anyway.

4. There Is a Massive Difference Between "Trying" and "Deciding"

I used to say I was "trying" to build a business or "trying" to find peace. But "trying" is just a fancy word for giving myself an out. It implies that failure is a likely option.

When I "decide" to do something, the energy shifts completely. A decision means I am committed to the result no matter what. It means I stop looking for excuses and start looking for ways to make it happen. I’ve found that once I make a firm decision, the universe and God start moving things in my favor. The "how" starts to show up only after I’ve fully committed to the "what."

5. Your Frequency Is Your Currency

Everything is energy, and like attracts like. If I am vibrating at the frequency of "lack" and "worry," I will attract more things to worry about. If I want to change my reality, I have to change my frequency first.

I make it a priority to stay in a high-vibe state. This means I curate my environment, my social circle, and my media consumption. I don't wait for things to go right to feel good. I feel good first, and then things start to go right. It is a radical shift in perspective that changes everything about how I navigate my day.

6. Money Is Just an Energy Exchange

For a long time, I had a very "sticky" relationship with money. I felt guilty for wanting it and scared of losing it. Jen taught me that money is just energy. It is a tool that allows me to show up more fully in the world and help more people.

When I shifted from a "Scarcity Mentality" to an "Abundance Mentality," my financial reality began to reflect that. I stopped seeing money as a limited resource and started seeing it as a flow. I realized that God wants me to be abundant so that I can be a greater blessing to others. Wealth is not just about the numbers in the bank; it is about the freedom to live my purpose.

7. Give Up the Need for Approval

This was the hardest lesson for me to learn as an introvert. I was so worried about what "they" would think. But I finally realized that "they" aren't the ones living my life.

When I live my life trying to please everyone else, I end up pleasing no one, least of all myself. Being a badass means I follow my own North Star, even if it makes other people uncomfortable. I’ve learned to trust my own intuition over the noise of the crowd. When I am authentic, I find the people who truly resonate with my soul.

Conclusion

These you are a badass lessons are not just concepts to be read; they are truths to be lived. I look back at my old journals and I can see the moment I decided to stop being a spectator and start being a creator.

You don't need a special invitation to start living a life that excites you. You just need to decide that you are worthy of it. You are already a badass. You just have to remember who you are.